When I was a little girl, my dad took me the park every day to play with the other kids in the neighborhood. Often times, many of the kids didn’t want to play with me. The few girls that did play with me always had their dolls to play with. One day, they decided we were going to have a tea party, and we would select a doll that resembled us to be our guest. Unfortunately, none of the dolls looked like me. I didn’t have blonde hair, blue eyes, and the brunette dolls all had colored eyes. None of them were tan. None of them had almond shaped eyes. I remember asking, “Why don’t you have a doll that looks like me?”
Then, the girls all answered, “It’s because you’re not pretty enough to have a doll like you. Only pretty people have dolls that looked like them.”
I quickly got up, and ran to my father crying. “Daddy, why am I ugly? Why don’t they make dolls that look like me?”
My father shook his head in disapproval at the parents of those girls. He picked me up, and I sat on his lap, rested my head on his chest and wailed. He wiped away my tears and said:
Pretty things can be toys and played with. And no, you’re not pretty. You’re beautiful. Beautiful things are not toys to be played with. Beautiful things are treasures that people cherish and adore, not something you play and throw away later.
Beautiful things make your heart smile, and little one, you make so many people smile.
Lately, I have been feeling physically inadequate. Much of this stems from my dating life in which guys leave me for prettier, thinner girls. My father’s birthday was a few days ago… and as I was driving home from work, I felt his presence, and I remembered those beautiful words he told me when I was a little girl. Although many may not believe I am pretty, I have to remind myself I am beautiful. I am beautiful and I am worth treasuring. I am not a pretty toy that can be thrown away later when I am tarnished and worn out.
Today, remind yourself that you are a beautiful treasure.